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1- Who are your Target?
We call it profiling your costumer or selecting your women as targets; women that you would aim to target from the very first move. Paradigms serve as both a lens and a filter in our view of the world. It is through the lens that we are able to seek, speculate and discover. However, making simple observations will not suffice; without a filter it is almost impossible to strain the good discoveries from the bad, to give meaning to or distinguish between our observations so that we may better understand how to operate.
Paradigms serve as a filter in our view of the world just as resourcefully as pans serve a diamond hunter. It is through personal paradigms that we map out a formulation or a mental model of our view of the world to make better inferences, reconsiderations, relations, and associations. Before doing anything else, you need to know whom you want to be with.
The most important thing is to know what you want to accomplish, first and foremost. You should try to identify your goals so you can then find the right person who will satisfy those goals instead of looking for someone who doesn’t match your objectives or needs, which could lead to a situation where it would require involving a third party to come to the rescue and much time would be wasted that way.
You don’t want to involve others in your personal endeavors, especially Lebanese people who are likely to give their unwanted advice and opinions by convincing you that you are making a mistake with your every move. Take your time, be patient, and most importantly be intelligent with your decision-making skills in choosing “the one.”
Try to look for more than one person; at the same time, you can try to target around 3 to 4 customers. Again, explore your options. Play the role of an investigator by exploring, analyzing, and assessing your options. Remember that what you look for and what you find might not always work out for you. Looking for treasure and finding dirt does not make the trip worthwhile. You may be looking for a particular type of woman, but may end up finding someone who possesses totally different characteristics than what you had expected. This may be a good thing, but we cannot simply rely on chance or luck. Sometimes you may need to customize yourself for some costumers for it to work out; always try to mirror her.
2-What do they want?
Find out what she’s looking for, what kind of relation she needs. What satisfies her, what her thought patterns are, what her social history consists of. If she’s looking for a serious relation try to find out what serious level she’s looking for. Sometimes she could be looking for a commitment that would lead to a marriage; some might be looking for good company, while others seek fun without any kind of relation. She just needs to trust you to give herself to you. Remember to always avoid being pushy; once you push more, the women will pull more.
In other words, try to keep a balance. Think of it as Yin and Yang. Always push and pull equally. Don’t pull a lot and don’t push a lot. Women tend to dislike pushy guys, so try to show her interest but don’t ever show her that you want her so badly and that you’re dying to be with her (even though you are). Be patient and give it time.
Think of being in the kitchen; when you attempt to cook something you always give it time to have it well done. The same thing goes in relationships: cook it well before you start eating your dish. Don’t call her every day, every morning or every night. Give her some space, and don’t ever show that you are in a rush for any kind of relation. Don’t give a lot of compliments and avoid flirting; it doesn’t work anymore. Try to act normal, be frank and straightforward. You can still do with some small lies but, preferably, something logical.
3-How have you changed?
Analyzing your personality and your character or how much you changed after learning from your own experience year by year through meeting different people and gaining new knowledge about this and that, you have to keep on changing and staying up to date with all the changes around you. Conform to societal trends even if it means altering your personality traits, your physical appearance, etc. The trend in terms of technologies, music, style, the way you talk, languages, and how to communicate; all of which mirror the woman you seek.
It is a completely different field, as you now know, marketing yourself to a woman. She is looking for something very, very different. You want to first find out what group of women you are marketing towards. You have to be very specific in your considerations of age, demographics, social status, and race; that sort of thing. A good way to start is by utilizing a simple “test.” Test your woman in every way possible. Make her laugh, make her cry, argue, take care of her, make her jealous; do whatever it takes to test her limits. How much can she take? How long would she last? How far is she willing to go? At this time, you can also test yourself and assess your own wants and needs. Are you looking for something serious? Do you see yourself with her in a long-term relationship, or is this likely to be a one-night stand?
Once you do have your market it is time to develop a test group. Try to meet different women and begin to group them into categories. Test yourself with them. Let them feel comfortable. Let them take a look at you and try to feel if they like you or dislike you after the meeting, that way you will get a general feel about the market that you have made yourself available to. Find out about what their feel is, what their likes and dislikes are, and then you can begin thinking about the introduction part.